“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.”—John Lennon
White people who are confronted with their white privilege and the white supremacist acts they perpetuate have been known to cry, “You’re being a reverse-racist!” That is completely true: people of color have the power and control to create, perpetuate,…
“I have heard there are troubles of more than one kind. Some come from ahead and some come from behind. But I’ve bought a big bat. I’m all ready you see. Now my troubles are going to have troubles with me!”—Dr. Seuss
I hate it when people think of it as a mountain to conquer. On a mountain, at least you’re out in the environment- open air, thinning as you ascend; sunlight, a creative source, a byproduct of a dying furnace.
Digging is the only way to get to roots. Burying seeds is the only way to begin fostering new life. We should all aspire to reach our depths. It’s going to save whatever world we are creating.” - Wayne Borders
Shana:What's the difference between being bitchmade and bitchhearted?
Stevie:Bitchmade is when you just a bitch through and through. That's eternal. Bitch heartedness can be cured with the wisdom that comes with age and experience. Your heart can change, but if your soul is based in bitchassness, there is no hope for you.
I don’t necessarily have to deal with things the same way you think I should. I don’t have to feel the way you want me to feel. I don’t have to have the same mindset and thought processes as you. You think you’re being a good friend and helping me out by acting like everything I think, do, say, and feel is somehow invalid, insignificant, and inappropriate - but you’re not helping. In fact, your attempts to make me realize how wrong it is to feel the way I do repulse me.
Stop telling me you know how I feel - you don’t. And stop telling me when I need to change my mind. Did it ever occur to you that maybe I don’t want or need to change my mind, and that there’s nothing wrong with that? If I decide to change my mind, I’ll change it when I’m ready (which just might be never).
Don’t tell me I’m going to regret my decisions just because you’ve made similar choices in the past and you regret them. Stop pretending to approach my situation from an objective point of view when all you’re doing is projecting your bullshit onto my life. Don’t tell me I need to do something you did that worked for you, just because you did it before and it worked out. Congratulations - now it’s my turn to find solutions to my problems on my own timeline.
Unfortunate recipient of unsolicited advice from so-called friend(s)